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November 1st, 2005
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I'm nearly incoherent over this one!
I am aware that the friendly relationship between myself, my ex and his new wife is unusual. (I am even (justifiably?) proud of it. My ex and I agreed, even before starting divorce proceedings, that Thomas did NOT deserve to suffer for our choices. We agreed to do our damnedest to manage 'civil' if we couldn't actually manage 'friendly'. P even had specific requests which I feared were the result of experiences of his own, growing up as the child of divorced parents. Simple things, like 'don't denigrate the other parent to the child'. I like to think we both manage quite well.) With that said, and keeping in mind I may be on a high horse, the following just steams me.

A friend's brother recently divorced and is now living with my friend and her fiance. The brother's daughter comes to visit on whatever schedule the courts decreed. She had a sore throat one time, and not long after she left, both my friend and her brother were diagnosed with strep throat. The brother asked his ex-wife to take their daughter to the doctor to get her checked. The ex-wife REFUSED. Why is not clear, but the assumption is, she just didn't want to do anything her ex (the RN) suggested.

It wasn't until weeks later, when the child couldn't even get out of bed, that the stupid woman finally took her to the doctor. Result? Not just a strep infection, but the worst the doctor had seen.

(You would not believe the effort of will it has taken to write this without a single swear word. That woman... GAH!)

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From:thebruce
Date:November 1st, 2005 06:20 pm (UTC)
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Congratulations on both your restraint, and your acceptance of civility.

We've theorized that good people individually, are not necessarily good *together*, and that if more people would get over their power trip and do the right thing, the world would be a better place.
From:rowangolightly
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:20 pm (UTC)
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What he said...yes, indeed, remaining civil and even friendly with an ex is something of which to be proud.

But fer crapsake; the health of a child is much more important than an ex's pride!

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From:solan_t
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:22 pm (UTC)
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"But fer crapsake; the health of a child is much more important than an ex's pride!"

Absolutely my thought.
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From:arian1
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:00 pm (UTC)
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Allow me to swear for you:

"WHAT IN THE FUCK?!?"

That is all. :)

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From:joyflgrrl
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:24 pm (UTC)
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I am often told that the cordial relationship I have with my ex and his wife, and the efforts we all make to ensure what's best for our kids, isn't the norm, and that makes me sad.
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From:solan_t
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:28 pm (UTC)
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Me, too. :(
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From:6strings
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:51 pm (UTC)
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Of my exes, I am on good terms with all but one. I hate leaving bridges burning. Sometimes they do get a bit smoked, but I make efforts to put out the fires and refurbish the wood.

(How's that metaphor?)
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From:solan_t
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:53 pm (UTC)
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It works. And, it's a good thing.
From:starstraf
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:44 pm (UTC)
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As a kid from a non-cordial split I thank you for the effort you make and I think it is wonderful

The friend's brother's ex-wife should have custody taken away from her
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From:solan_t
Date:November 1st, 2005 07:48 pm (UTC)
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"The friend's brother's ex-wife should have custody taken away from her"

And I was thinking that too.
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From:mckitterick
Date:November 1st, 2005 08:58 pm (UTC)
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What is wrong with people?
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