And now I start in on the guilt trips. This I know I do to myself, but I am not happy to know this, as that just increases the guilt and anger.
I feel guilty for excluding someone that very obviously wishes to be included, but:
I really, really wish there was some remedy for T.'s (remember him from about two years ago?) extreme social ineptness, so he could catch a clue that, when someone is cold to him most all the time, a polite answer to a direct question IS NOT an invitation to social intimacy. *sigh*. But I am never really given an opening to re-iterate my direct 'No' from when he last asked me out, so I am not sure how I can be really direct about things. Without being more rude than simply ignoring him is. Of course, if he weren't quite SO socially inept, I wouldn't object to including him, now would I?