(this is cheating, you know, since you don't have a LJ of your own....)
I met Dr. Paisley, he-of-the-spectacullarly-unmatching-patterns-and-wonderous-lack-of-color-coordination, through KaCSFFS about the time my marriage went poof. I was shy, disbelieving in my own attrativeness and very much deep in my shell. I didn't want to be any of those things, but didn't know how not to be. He taught me, by being pleased to see me, that I was attractive and, by example, how to flirt and that flirting is not only fun, but safe. He, along with dragonet2 and rohanna, welcomed me to KaCSFFS and its functions and gave my world a much broader (yes, and pleasant!) vista.